One reason is that each person has struggles and has a unique capacity to cope with them.
We can’t compare difficulties from person to person. It is not the difficulty that matters.
There are people born into financial privilege who do not learn how to work through hard things. Then again, some do.
And there are people born into abject poverty who acquire the skills needed to work through whatever comes up. Then again, some don’t.
It’s not the difficulty, it’s the capacity for healthy coping.
When we become adults and look at our lives and don’t like what we see, it’s a miserable feeling.
When I was at my worst, e.g., Going through a divorce, angry with everyone, unhealthy, unhappy, and miserable, I didn’t know how to fix it.
It was my only life, and I hated it. I hated me and everyone around me. I hated my job, my house, and I wasn’t overly fond of my own offspring.
My attitude and actions were destroying my team, my family, and my health.
It was ugly. I was ugly. Not outside, inside.
Maybe your life isn’t there. I hope it isn’t!!
The thing is, on a team, it only takes one person who is suffering this way to start tearing down the organization’s well-being. This applies to families also. I was hurting every group I touched.
Now, I am peaceful, vibrant, joyful and living a life I love!
What happened?
A fairy godmother? A sugar daddy? A miracle? NO!!
Well, maybe a miracle.
What happened was I learned that I do have the capacity to learn coping skills beyond rage, food, and alcohol.
I learned how to love myself. In doing that I discerned that loving other people brings me peace.
I learned how to care for my body. In doing that I found energy and enthusiasm.
I learned how to create positive relationships with other humans. In doing that I connected with my desire to serve others.
Now, answering that desire is what drives me.
It is my calling and my superpower to mentor people who are struggling.
Because I know that helping you is worthwhile. It is a bonus that it will help your team, and your family.
May I ask a favor? If you know someone who is struggling to shape their life and you believe I could help, would you share this with them? I would be honored.
