We continue our series on the Gremlins. (If you have missed some of the blog posts, go here: Shape Good Habits Blog
Expresses Negativity
Sparky is your next Gremlin. Sparky is so fun! Sparky’s the one who expresses the negativity that arises when your other Gremlins are out of shape.
When Echo is out of shape and you are not living with integrity to who you want to be in your life. Sparky expresses it. Sometimes loudly. It is then you can start to recognize a problem.
When Mojo is out of shape, you could find your health is deteriorating because you are not feeding yourself well. You may not be moving enough. Perhaps your sleep is interrupted. Maybe you aren’t drinking enough water. Sparky comes to rescue us and expresses your discomfort in your response to other people, situations, or events.
When Pointer’s blame game is in full swing, Sparky steps in. Sparky takes that blaming and turns it into outrage and punishment.
Sparky is dramatic! And Sparky is uncomfortable. When Sparky is at its loudest expression, your temper is out of control.
Here’s the downside: Sparky cannot tell you what other Gremlin is out of shape. Sparky is a messenger that something is not right. Just not what that might be.
When you notice that Sparky is spitting sparks on the people around you, or they are in danger of freezer burn because of you, it is an opportunity for an adventure.
The Greatest Adventure of Your Live
The truest adventure in your life is discovering WHO you are and WHAT drives you.
That’s why paying attention to your Gremlins is so powerful.
When you break down the intricacies of who you are and why you do what you do it becomes simpler to recognize what it is that makes you different from anyone else.
It's the Work of Living
Because when Sparky is out of shape, Buddy also struggles. Remember, Buddy is your connection to love. Not just love of the power that sustains us, whatever you may call that. But, love in our connection to our family and friends. Plus, love for yourself. All of these connections are threatened when Sparky is shooting off.
When Sparky is expressing the discomfort of the other Gremlins, the sparks and icicles hurt the people around us. When you scold, dismiss, or disrespect someone in your close circle, it damages your relationship. E.v.e.r.y. S.i.n.g.l.e. T.i.m.e.
Here is an exercise you can do to help you see what Sparky’s expressions do to your people.
Take a piece of cardboard that is smooth. One side of your next Amazon box is perfect.
For one week, every time you receive a sharp word, something disrespectful, or hateful from anyone, poke a pin in that cardboard.
At the end of the week, take those pins out.
Now, smooth out those holes and make them disappear.
You can’t do it, can you?
That’s what your anger is doing to your people.
Sparky is your messenger that your life is out of shape.
P.S. Remember that your Gremlins are the only ones you monitor. Other people’s Gremlins are none of your business. You cannot manage anyone else’s Sparky. Nor will their Sparky reveal the source of their sparks. That would be mind-reading. You can’t do it. You have enough to do with your own Gremlins.
